“Real tolerance entails putting up with what one considers to be error.” -Mark L. Y. Chan
Authenticity Part 3c: Sexuality
Ok, you knew this was coming, right?
One of the things that drove me to start reflecting a bit more critically on the issue of sexuality was watching a short video from some homosexual Christians who were reflecting on their experiences growing up in the church. Homosexuals growing up in the church frequently testify to not only the guilt that comes from the preaching against their sexual drives but also to the imprisoning feeling of not being able to authentically express who they are as they strive to live their lives before God. Not acknowledging and living into their homosexual orientation creates an inauthentic experience of not only faith but also life itself.
I think about the issue of homosexuality a good deal (I live in San Francisco, for crying out loud), and I think that some Christian arguments in its favor are stronger than others. The authenticity argument I find to be one of the least compelling.
The reason for this is that in sexuality as much as any other, and more than most other, areas of our lives, the Christian call to live into the righteous life that God desires is a call to set aside what we would otherwise feel like doing.
I recognize that the church as a whole has given up its moral authority to speak on sexual issues. Unlike the church of the prior 1925 years, the church at the middle of the twentieth century became more of a baptizer of the culture’s sexual and marital mores than a missional outpost calling for a counter-cultural way of life. Once we no longer even call people to higher fidelity to their marriage covenant (stay married!) or to confining all sexual expression to marriage, then we’ve lost the moral standing to speak in God’s name about the sorts of sexual relationships God may or may not approve. I can hear one of my readers asking, “Who’s we?” and to this I say: the North American church in general, and the mainline churches in particular.
But having said that, I would say that every call to abstinence or self-control in the area of sexuality, every call to be faithful within a marriage covenant, is at some level a recognition that godly sexuality will at times be an “inauthentic” sexuality. Fully authentic self-expression will often entail sex with a person with whom one is developing an intimate relationship–where there is love. But a married person might develop a strong relationship with someone other than her spouse. Unmarried people will genuinely love the people they are dating.
Authenticity is an insufficient criterion to determine an appropriate expression of sexuality.
If someone is unconvinced that waiting for marriage, or confining sexual expression to marriage (or something like it) is biblical and godly, I suppose I could always bring out more extreme examples such as pedophilia. Is authenticity a sufficient judge to determine godly sexual expression in that case? I don’t want to build my whole case here, because I don’t want my dear readers to think that I can’t tell the difference between consenting, committed adults and the abuse of power, etc. that are entailed in pedophilia. But when we make authenticity our canon, there are ramifications that almost all of us will want to deny.
As I indicated in the first post in this series, I think authenticity is important, even indispensable in Christian communities. But it is not a sufficient rule of practice to tell us either how to act (because we’re being authentic) or how we shouldn’t (because doing a particular action wouldn’t be authentic).
Our rule of life is not who we are, but who we are being made to be in Christ, and the road he has led us on by which to get there: the way of the cross, which is the way of death, which is the formative narrative that determines what our life in community looks like.
Authenticity Part 3b: Forgiveness and Anger
A second issue about authenticity swirls around the nexus of anger and forgiveness.
(As an aside, and in the interest of transparency and authenticity, these first two issues are close to home for me. I tend to use more than my fair share of colorful (*ahem*) language and have been known to rage from time to time. The are neither the observations of a neutral observer nor a call to be just like me nor theological justifications for me to be just who I am. Now back to our story…)
I take these two together because… well… Jesus does. I’m such a fundamentalist. In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus is talking about murder. He slides into a discussion about anger by telling us that when someone is angry it is as though the have killed the other person: they are liable to the judgment.
Here we have another indication that being “true to ourselves” isn’t always an indication that we’re living into the righteous life that God desires. In fact, the point of so much of this portion of the sermon is that who we really are can show us how bad our problem really is.
But this isn’t just about showing us we suck, Jesus wants to form us into a community that lives into the narrative of a Father who has brought forth children by the self-giving life of Jesus. And this, I think, is the turn that Jesus’ instruction takes.
After warning people not to be angry or call names, Jesus talks about life in the family of God. The family language is not accidental: “If you’re offer your gift on the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave it before the altar and go–first be reconciled to your sister or brother.”
Two things here: First, did you notice that our worship of God is given back-seat to our relationships with God’s children? Against our individualistic tendencies that see worship as a matter between me and God, or my heart alone before God, this passage says no, the quality of your community as a place that is living into the reconciled relationships that God himself establishes with us is our first priority.
But surely this attending to the other needs to be done because otherwise our hearts won’t be right in our own worship?
Nope. Here’s the second point. We don’t go and be reconciled because we remember that we’ve got to forgive someone else. We go and reconcile because we realize that they have to forgive us. Our identity as a people of forgiveness is so vital to our life before God that God demands we leave aside all pretense of piety until that issue is worked out.
Sometimes, the importance of authenticity has one redemptive function: to show us and the people around us where we need to live into the narrative that we are otherwise denying in our hearts and lives. To not forgive, or to not pursue forgiveness, is to live in denial of the story that makes us who we are. About anger in particular, James later warns us that this does not bring about (much less evince!) the righteous life that God desires.
Authenticity is not enough.
Indeed, continuing to live into the foundational moment of our story, not merely receiving forgiveness but extending it to others, is the sine qua non of continuing to participate in the story of God’s family: “If you forgive people their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but it you do not forgive people, neither will your father forgive your transgressions.”
Our call is not merely to be authentic, but to become authentically Christian, authentically children of our forgiving and loving heavenly Father.
Authenticity part 3a: The Shortcoming in Speech
I’ve tried to get us started thinking about authenticity by affirming how it’s good and then highlighting some if its limitations.
Now I want to suggest a few specific places where authenticity either does or might leave us short as a measure for the Christian life. Three areas illustrate the (possible) shortcoming: speech, forgiveness, and sex.
In response to some of my initial thoughts about authenticity, two different people shared with me some thoughts they were starting to work out about the relationship between “authentic speech” and the lives we’re called to live in Christ. One of these reflections had to do with use of “foul language,” the other had to do with what I’ll call acerbic speech or, more mildly, ungraciousness.
Part of the challenge with language is that it is culturally conditioned. Not only what a word “means” but how it communicates and its place in the shared lexicon of a society are all culturally determined. This means that in certain circles, words will not be offensive that will be in other circles, language appropriate to one context may not be appropriate in another. Moreover, there is up-side to using what is sometimes called “foul language”: sometimes, a strong word reserved for the right instance can communicate with power.
But just as often, use of such language can be an illustration of immaturity or bad judgment. The fact that all words are socially conditioned does not mean that we have carte blanche to use them however we see fit, it means that we have to read the culture we are in and choose words that function within that world in a way that matches who we desire to be.
When I speak of who we “desire to be,” I’m back to the question of eschatology: what “self” are we being authentic to? It may be that in using borderline language we are intentionally attempting to show that, for example, a legalistic expression of Christianity is inauthentic to the new person God is making us into in Christ. But it may just as well be the case that my insistence on using proverbial four letter words is illustrative of the old self with its strong, unwholesome, impure speech that refuses to leave behind what is familiar and habit in favor of the cruciform-road along which purity is pursued.
Curse words are the tip of the iceberg. There are all sorts of things that come out of our mouths, many of which are no less poisonous for all their flowery garb. In fact, it is perhaps with speech that the question of authenticity is so important to put into its appropriate context, because the assumption at several points in scripture seems to be that the mouth is as indicative of the condition of our hearts as anything else: “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks” (Matthew 12:34).
My concern is that the high value we place on authenticity might make such demonstrative mouths into an inherent good: so long as we’re speaking what we feel, we’re being authentic, and that’s what Jesus says we should expect.
But Jesus’ words point in a different direction. The first part of the verse quoted above reads, “You brood of vipers! How can you speak good when you are evil?” It then goes on to say that the mouth speaks the overflow of the heart. What this means is that the congruity between mouth and heart can often be presumed, but it therefore becomes our job to assess the quality of those words by means other than authenticity to determine whether we speak as ones who are being transformed into the image of God in Christ or, instead, as those who are part of the viperous brood of the Serpent himself.
Jesus’ other words of correlation between heart and mouth are much to the same effect. What makes a person “unclean”? Not what goes in through the mouth and into the stomach. No, “but the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a person unclean.” Authentic words have the very real potential of reinforcing our need to be saved by the work of Jesus rather than demonstrating our participation in it.
This is, perhaps, where my second friend’s concerns came in. She was pushed to devalue authenticity as such when she saw it used as a cloak for ungracious, destructive speech. In some of the circles we both run in, this is often directed against the church and traditional ways of doing church in particular.
It is these uses of the tongue–the “I’m not gossiping, but…” conversations that are rife with gossip, the “no offense, but…” statements that introduce deeply offensive comments; the criticism, bickering, expressions of anger–that put on full display James’ warning that the tongue is a fire setting the world ablaze.
Authentic speech should be a goal–but authentically life-giving speech that refuses to use light as a masquerade for darkness, “truth” to suffocate love.
Authenticity, Part 2: Redemption
As I stated in my earlier post, authenticity is good. It’s much better than being “inauthentic” or “dishonest” or lying or keep up appearances.
But to suggest that authenticity is a sufficient criterion for determining what is right is to over-empower it. Or, to put it in a way that gets at the heart of what follows: arguing for action based on “authenticity” represents an over-realized eschatology. For now we are not yet what we shall one day be. Until that happens, “who we are” is no clear indicator of what we should be doing.
There are several important angles for approaching the question of authenticity. One of these is what we discussed last time: being authentic about our struggles, shortcomings, sins, and other messy moments conduces to a healthy community of faith (and healthy witness to those who don’t have any faith). It stems the pretension that can lead to charges of hypocrisy and sets us on firmer footing with one another.
Another important angle for approaching the question of authenticity is the poly-cultural embodiment of the gospel. When we see the good news of Jesus crossing from Jewish into Gentile worlds, the church determines quickly that the religious, and cultural trappings of Judaism cannot be imposed on the Gentiles as a requirement to be received into the people of God. Parallels might be brought into the discussion from our modern context: each culture is permitted to create worship forms that are authentic expressions of honor and thankfulness to God.
But at the narrative dynamic of the Christian message is not simply that God wants us to be honest, or that God wants to create a multi-cultural people glorifying him with one voice. More fundamental than either of these is that we are redeemed from an old way of life, by the death of Jesus, and into a new way of life, empowered by Jesus’ resurrection.
The truth-telling to which we are called is an expression of our new identity “in Christ,” where God is our father. The new multi-cultural community is one in which Christ has accepted us to the glory of God–precisely by redeeming us from our sinful ways that left us short of the glory of God.
In other words, Christianity is about redemption, not mere affirmation. This means it is about transformation.
And if our story is about transformation, then we will always have to weigh what we want to do, what feels right for us to do against the very real possibility that our desire is an expression of the old humanity rather than the new.
We live between the times. This means that the new identity which is ours in Christ is something we are living into. We must still actively pursue a life which is “walking by the Spirit,” because the “flesh sets its desire against the Spirit.” As a people in the process of being transformed from our conformity to the patterns of one way of life into the new way of life made available to those who have “crucified the flesh with its passions and desires,” there is always the distinct possibility that we will want what we are being redeemed from rather than that into which we are being transformed and to which we are being called.
One day we will simply be living full new life in Christ, such that all we authentically are and desire will be pleasing in the sight of God.
But until then, we are called to “put to death the deeds of the flesh” which are the integral and therefore authentic ways of being outside of Christ.
What on earth does this have to do with anything? As any good biblical scholar would, I put off specific point of application. But only until tomorrow or so. Stay tuned!
Authenticity Part 1: The Good
On Facebook and Twitter a couple days ago I expressed some concern about the rampant use of “authenticity” as our litmus test for what we, as Christians, should be doing.
In 140 characters, one sometimes is not able to give a fully nuanced view of things, hence the glory of the blog where I can give a less-than-fully- nuanced view of things in as many characters as I please.
There is something very good about the pursuit of authenticity.
Too often, in cultures such as churches, the goals and standards of holiness and perfection (and less noble standards such as the social mores du jour) create a pressure to be disingenuous about our lives. We get pulled into the trap of thinking that our job is to be a perfect demonstration of the perfection to which we’re all striving, so we hide our flaws, failures, and shortcomings and create images of competence and perfection.
The ante is often upped for religious professionals. We might fear that acknowledgment of our failures or struggles will cost us our jobs–and we may be right. In some circles, this applies not only to personal piety but also theological convictions. People mask what they truly believe because they live in fear that the truth will set them freer than they’d prefer from their source of income.
So when we talk about authenticity, one of the most important things to say is that it represents a healthy, godly, and pastorally powerful alternative to the inauthentic facades we too often take up.
From my limited experience, sermons (for example), and teaching are much much powerful when the preacher or teacher is honest about being a person in process–both personally in the muck and crap of the world and theologically.
While we don’t want to wallow or glory in our failures or air our dirty laundry, people resonate with leaders who are fellow travelers, people resonate with fellow travelers who are honest about the valleys as well as the peaks.
Such a call to “authenticity” is in step with the narrative we’re called to live into in Jesus Christ. When Paul or Jesus speak of embodying Jesus’ ministry in our own lives, as often as not they are speaking of a life that embodies the one thing that makes us distinctively Christian: the cross of Christ. Authentic discipleship will walk the way of the cross. This means that “authenticity” that admits struggles, weakness, even failure (from an earthly point of view) is not only relatively better, but the type of discipleship that sets us apart as Christians.
Authenticity is not only good, or a happy fad, but essential to Christian discipleship.
Up next: The Limits of Authenticity as the rule for Christian ethics.



